Open Up and Ease The Struggle

When we experience difficult times, a common tendency is to try to keep emotions hidden inside,  wearing smiles on our faces, hoping to cover our inner distress. And it can be so easy to bottle things up as an alternative to sharing problems, or dealing with the causes of stress head on.

 We are all well versed with the notion that it’s good to talk, but as complex creatures, there will of course be occasions when we don’t feel able to speak with others, nor indeed want to. We may feel hurt, vulnerable, or sensitive and just need some time out, where we don’t invite anyone into our world to help us. And that’s fine, and natural. But as we withdraw to heal or find solace, we should be cautious about staying there too long.

 Of course, it’s often impossible in today’s world to withdraw from community completely whilst we deal with our personal problems—there’s work to consider, bills to pay, mouths to feed. So, a modern-day recluse may no longer be someone who stays home all day with the curtains closed, but will instead venture out into their community each day (participating in the ways they’re required to) whilst inviting no-one into their inner world.

 When we put up barriers, or wear masks, talking about trivial topics whilst other intense subjects are whirling around our minds, we distance ourselves from our own authenticity. Sometimes we can feel like there are different versions of ourselves being played throughout our existence, and the energy we embody may alter depending on whether we’re alone or with others. For example, you might go out for the evening, have a good time, then lie awake during the night worrying about something you never even discussed with your friends.

 In these kind of circumstances, where we struggle to deal with our emotions, I believe it’s crucial that we do search out someone we can talk through our dramas with asap. Whilst inner-solitude may seem like a friend, we are a sociable species by nature, and when we find a nurturing ear that we can trust with our deepest problems, we find an outlet through which can release some of the pent-up energy that we struggle to contain.

Do you change around others?

 To truly know inner peace, there must be only one version of you, and that version shouldn’t change depending upon the company you keep. If you embody more than one version of yourself, a certain degree of mental stress will always exist as you strive to find ultimate peace. The more versions of you that exist, the more fractured your existence becomes and the more overwhelming life can seem. So, in instances where we find ourselves distanced from our true Self, we must make every effort to regroup as quickly possible, address issues head on where necessary, and embody the change which will set our authenticity free.

 By trusting others with our issues, we provide an opportunity for Synchronicity to deliver a fresh perspective, and often actions or solutions are brought to the forefront of our minds through such conversations. Whilst we may struggle to maintain our grip on reality, Synchronicity still exists, but unless we reach out to others, offering a branch into the Universe, it will be hard for Synchronicity to reach us. Fate will rarely knock on your front door and deliver a solution right to our doorstep – but it’s always there, waiting for us to play our hand and notice the magic that’s right in front of us.

 Although life can leave us not wanting to get out of bed some days, by acting in ways that are aligned with our true Self, and through loving ourselves for who we really are, I believe we can rise out of any situation and find inner peace.

 By trusting others with our true feelings, smiling when we are happy, and telling our trusted confidants when we’re not, we can dissolve masks and address the world as a whole, consistent person. Yes, we all have rough days, weeks, or years, but as life operates in cycles, we can take comfort in the fact that we live and learn and that change will surely come.

 When we open up and entrust others with the fragilities of our lives, we realise that we are far from alone in our circumstances, and see clearly that, unless we are literally a saint, all of us have our own issues which niggle at our inner peace. When we share our problems with others, we find in turn that they share their issues with us. And if we approach life desiring to trust others whilst remaining savvy to the world, we can welcome others into our inner world with gratitude and allow their perspectives to calm our storms.

The most interesting conversations are those with depth.

 We can all talk about the weather, but, personally, I find the most interesting conversations are those that occur when I’m invited to learn about what really makes a person tick, what inspires them, what saddens them, or makes their inspiration energy bubble. No matter whether the life I’m hearing of is currently rough or smooth, I feel honoured any time anyone shares a snippet of their inner world with me. I’m sure whenever your loved-ones experience hardship you try to offer them empathy and support, so whilst you go through your own turbulence, try to allow them the opportunity to reciprocate the same loving energy, and endeavour to let them in wherever you can. 

And if there’s no-one in your life who you think would understand your problems, you can choose to find a safe place by talking to a Mentor or Life Coach, whereby you can open up honestly to a friendly, professional ear, without ever worrying about your advisor judging you or telling your secrets to anyone you know.  

No-one ever said that life would be easy, but when we share our journey with others and talk through the burdens we carry, we surface our wounds, and bury nothing. Through honest communication, we can throw light on the darkest issues and brighten every corner of our existence.

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