We’ve all been there. We have a friend, loved one, partner or co-worker who starts complaining about how life has dealt them some pretty rotten hands. They go on and on. They’re inconsolable. We may care and want to help them, but we may find ourselves needing space from their constant pessimism and complaining, which […]
“Dear James, What do you do if the person you love has not yet found a spiritual connection or seems to resist the idea completely? How to help the person you are with when they are not on a spiritual path? My question is how do I support a healthy spiritual process for him?” Helping […]
Just when I let go, I entered the flow and began to see I was being led from one lesson to the next, preparing me for the next adventure to come. ~ Amanda Salsman The Celestine Prophecy tends to be a book that finds you only when you are ready to hear its message. For […]
Last year was intense in its own way. The spring likely brought big lessons; sometimes karma sweeps us up not to punish us, but to gently wake us and help us see where greater responsibility, self-awareness, or care for ourselves was being asked of us. These moments often invite us into deeper accountability—not as judgment, […]
Relationships…When they are healthy and balanced, they can be life-giving and energizing. A supportive relationship, founded in love, whether it is romantic or friendship based, can offer an invigorating level of companionship and life-long support. In a balanced relationship, energy and is given back and forth, and grows — uplifting both people into their highest creativity. […]
Something exciting occurs when you decide to pursue a SPIRITUAL relationship. I can recall the exact moment Salle and I decided to work towards this deeper connection together. One year we found ourselves regularly arguing over small things. It didn’t help that we’d been cooped up through a period of cold weather, and tensions were […]
I remember how I felt the year I turned thirty. It was a shock. I had never been able to relate to people over thirty, and it felt strange to suddenly be one of them. When I looked in the mirror, I felt old and young at the same time. I had mistakenly convinced myself […]
When we experience difficult times, a common tendency is to try to keep emotions hidden inside, wearing smiles on our faces, hoping to cover our inner distress. And it can be so easy to bottle things up as an alternative to sharing problems, or dealing with the causes of stress head on. We are all […]
Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries is a life skill. It requires a confidence that allows us to feel as though we deserve to be respected, and though it seems many of us are born with it, often it slowly wanes over time. As our childish innocence falls to the side, we try to figure out […]
One of my favorite books, The Celestine Prophecy, introduced me to the idea of Control Dramas, of which there are four (Intimidator, Interrogator/Critic, Aloof, and Poor Me). There are frequent questions about the Control Dramas, how to recognize them, and most importantly, how to step out of the drama. All these questions have prompted me […]
