One of my favorite books, The Celestine Prophecy, introduced me to the idea of Control Dramas, of which there are four (Intimidator, Interrogator/Critic, Aloof, and Poor Me). There are frequent questions about the Control Dramas, how to recognize them, and most importantly, how to step out of the drama. All these questions have prompted me […]
Something exciting occurs when you decide to pursue a SPIRITUAL relationship. I can recall the exact moment Salle and I decided to work towards this deeper connection together. One year we found ourselves regularly arguing over small things. It didn’t help that we’d been cooped up through a period of cold weather, and tensions were […]
Relationships…When they are healthy and balanced, they can be life-giving and energizing. A supportive relationship, founded in love, whether it is romantic or friendship based, can offer an invigorating level of companionship and life-long support. In a balanced relationship, energy and is given back and forth, and grows — uplifting both people into their highest creativity. […]
We’ve all been there. We have a friend, loved one, partner or co-worker who starts complaining about how life has dealt them some pretty rotten hands. They go on and on. They’re inconsolable. We may care and want to help them, but we may find ourselves needing space from their constant pessimism and complaining, which […]
Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries is a life skill. It requires a confidence that allows us to feel as though we deserve to be respected, and though it seems many of us are born with it, often it slowly wanes over time. As our childish innocence falls to the side, we try to figure out […]
I remember how I felt the year I turned thirty. It was a shock. I had never been able to relate to people over thirty, and it felt strange to suddenly be one of them. When I looked in the mirror, I felt old and young at the same time. I had mistakenly convinced myself […]
“Dear James, What do you do if the person you love has not yet found a spiritual connection or seems to resist the idea completely? How to help the person you are with when they are not on a spiritual path? My question is how do I support a healthy spiritual process for him?” Helping […]
As Autumn and I were discussing her article, Letting Go of Anger in Relationships, we realized how much it resonated with my own relationship. Our stories may all be slightly or even totally different, but we can all relate to each other once we have an understanding of how we compete for energy. I think […]
2018 was intense. In the Spring, big lessons and karma swept in to wake us up, showing us where we had been lacking in responsibility and self-discipline, and encouraged us to take accountability for our life. If that wasn’t enough, astrological forces then thrust us into two months of heightened awareness of our hidden secrets […]
We are all learning to benefit from our Spiritual Connection, which means we can “Solve our Problems and Reach our Dreams” in a near miraculous manner! But to do so, we must cultivate our flow of Synchronicity and Intuition and maximize the ordinary moments in life. This is especially true in our work and creative […]
