How to Find Lasting Fulfillment in Your Relationships
- Work to overcome your Control Dramas
Particularly when we are under stress and disconnected spiritually, we tend to seek the energy we need from others by force. We pursue gaining control over someone else because of the security it brings us.
When humans join minds, there becomes an issue of who’s going to be smartest and control the larger mind. However, we can take the steps to transcend and interpret control drama’s on a much deeper level, both spiritually and psychologically by being realistic about what is going on in the relationship.
You may both be playing out a control drama. One person could be the Interrogator, while the other person is running from the control of that energy by playing the Poor Me drama or acting Aloof.
There is a resolution here: Name the game and work toward authentic conversations. When you recognize a controlling behavior, say how you feel. “I’m being intimidated.” Don’t worry if the other person denies what’s going on. You set yourself free.
- Be Honest When You Communicate
Make sure that you’re clearing the air and moving into an authentic discussion. Out of this honesty, you will both self-correct.
Honesty is the main idea of initiating a discussion with your partner so that you both work towards sharing the leadership, moment to moment. The “head of the household stuff,” that’s all wrong! The ideal alternative is to share the power as you both receive intuitive guidance on how to help one another and lead the relationship.
“Our relationships are the spice of life; a training area for us to hold our connection with God.”
Love is the main measure of spirituality working in your life. The ultimate change exists in the quality of your emotions; an inner security and love that will naturally lead you out of the pain in your life. It’s always a matter of coming back to love.
When you open your heart and hold honest conversations, you can transcend your control dramas to find lasting happiness and fulfillment in your relationships.
To learn more, listen to the CV Podcast: The Big Picture – Relationships
